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ms protocol Focusing the intent of your relationship

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and

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communications A book of practical communication insights

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur

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bdsmmastery basics your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all

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bdsm mastery relationships a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships

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ms mastery updated Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being

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master slave mastery advanced Refining the fire—ideas that matter

Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield

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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so

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Whatever your mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.

Personal Exploration and Discovery
Bob's Personal Journey
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photo 8 books

NOTE: SAADE club meetings included a 60-90 minute demo or presentation. These were amazing events that discuss all sorts of topics that I’d never thought about. Erotic shaving? Basic rope bondage? Wrapping someone up in Saran Wrap? Spanking someone for erotic purposes?

At 58 years old, all this appeared to be occurring on a parallel universe.  I’d had zero exposure to anything but very vanilla sex prior to a year ago. I hadn’t been sexually curious to this point and I was brought up largely without kids my own age living in our neighborhood so I’d had no exposure to sexual options.


Since I’ve been trained to be an academic researcher, I decided that the obvious thing to do would be to read books and go to weekend BDSM conferences.  

I read lots of books. But, there simply aren’t very many books in print. We have “SM-101” and “Screw the Roses” and “The Loving Dominant,” but not a whole lot beyond that.  I continued to find books as they came out: generally, I read them immediately.

Austin is well located for weekend BDSM conferences.  My “main club,” NLA-Austin, puts on its own weekend educational event and GWNN has its annual Bash. Up in Dallas, you have both Southplains Leather Fest and Beyond Vanilla.  Renee and I are/have been going to all four of them: we were sucking up knowledge at a very good rate.

The first year we attended Southplains, we took 100% “skills track” classes.  There were a bunch of classes in something called the “M/s track,” but those seemed to be for the gay guys who were dressed a little differently from the rest of us.

By the second year that we went up for Southplains, we at least knew that Master/salve existed and started taking those classes.

By the third year at Southplains, we only took the M/s classes.

I’d found my fit. The rest is history.