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Focusing the intent of your relationship
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and
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A book of practical communication insights
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur
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your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all
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a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships
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Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices
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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being
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Refining the fire—ideas that matter
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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so
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As Board members, we are regulars at NLA-Austin meetings. We also show up regularly for SAADE meetings in order to see the demos and presentations. We’ve become friends with a lot of people. We’ve started giving our own play parties.
Alpha is one of the senior members of our community, but not directly. She is very active in Bound by Desire (BBD) and is a Leatherwoman. She was active with SAADE in its early years but, as with many, was driven away because of one well-known Dom’s bad attitude and behavior. I mention this becasue Alpha is responsible for starting me in eroti and fetish photography. The leg? Oh, the Leg... It's Renee's leg. There's a story there.
At any rate, we were being fairly social and were giving play parties. Alpha was invited, along with piper, her girl/submissive. Our home, about 45 minutes northwest of Austin, is decorated with my nature photographs and woodturnings. I have a full-sized woodworking studio in the full-sized “basement” of the house. We also have our own dance studio down there. We’ve finished out a room 15’x25’ and put down a “floating” compressed-ash professional floor. Both side walls and one end wall have mirrors. There is also a small bathroom down there.
These details are important, as Alpha, while attending one of our recent parties saw my nature photography. “If you can do that with a bug, I would like you to do a photo session with my girls” she said.
I’d never considered shooting girls. I was extremely awkward around women back then and wouldn’t have known how to approach one.
So on a Saturday afternoon a few weekends ago, Alpha arrived with quite a crew. She had piper and Chance and another couple whom I have not seen since.
I’d discovered that there are certain types of shots that can’t be developed in Texas, even in Austin. For example, you can’t print anything explicit, let alone pornographic. To get around this, I had to change from a film camera to a digital camera, and digitals were still very new. I bought a Nikon Coolpix with a 2mb capture and did the best I could.
It blew her away. She was astounded. She said that she was very cautious about letting photographers around her girls, but that these images were amazing. Alpha began my career as an erotic and fetish photographer and we had lots of fun on those shoots. Also, she coached me on how to speak with women during the photo process.
She remains a good friend to this day.
The Book Series
Because the worlds of BDSM and Master/slave are so different, we have created two new book series:
BDSM Mastery
This series of books is the world of sado-masochistic (SM) play and Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships. There are two books available in this series: one on play, parties, and scene protocols and the other on D/s relationships.
In my world, D/s involves a dominant and a submissive, and the submissive retains some personal rights -- where and when to work, religion, contact with friends and biological family.
Master/slave Mastery
This series of books is about authority-transfer relationships. The only book now available is a rewrite and substantial expansion of my prior book titled: Master/slave Relationships: Handbook of theory and practice.
In my world, M/s is based on service and obedience and where the slave falls on the personality scale from dominant to submissive is secondary to the slave's quality of service and obedience. Here, the "s" can easily stand for "subordinate" rather than "submissive." As in, the Colonel is subordinate (but not submissive) to the General. In my world, the "s-type" in the M/s relationship is owned property.