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Focusing the intent of your relationship
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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This book is a map to help others design their own personal protocols. It is a book that provides countless tips and
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A book of practical communication insights
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur
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your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all
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a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives
Author(s):
Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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This is a book about relationships. Adventuresome relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships
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Updated handbook of concepts, approaches and practices
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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
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As you learn more about M/s structures, you will learn that unlike the popularized version in which the slave’s primary reason-for-being
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Refining the fire—ideas that matter
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Robert J. Rubel Ph.D.
M. Jen Fairfield
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In my view, the Master/slave dynamic provides an almost unique opportunity for a like-minded couple to design a magical life for themselves… so
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Notes from m
y journal: During SAADE’s October meeting, there was a lot of talk about the Austin Mentor’s Program. Evidently, it’s an adjunct to SAADE, but a little apart. I don’t quite get it. Anyway, David Walker runs it and he has taken a liking to me and invited me to join a few others.
As I’ve now been “in the scene” for about six months, this is a great good fortune and good timing. This is really a new program. This is only the second year. This time we get to spend about five hours with each of the assigned mentors, each of whom will teach us a single skill.
My schedule looks like this:
- December 2001: fire play
- January 2002: impact play—spanking, paddling, floggers
- February; DM certification training + first aid
- March: toybag basics
- April: CBT + clips and clamps
- May: electrical stimulation — violet wand and TENS
- June: rope bondage
- July: sensation play
- August: submissives’ round-table
- Sep: rough body play
(ADDED NOTE: David and I would go on to co-author and publish the first—and to this day the only—book on fire play. David had also co-founded SAADE, initially called: “School for Advanced American-style Dominants’ Education.” It is an “education” club as opposed to GWNN, which remains a “play” club. GWNN stands for “Group With No Name. You could be a member of this club without showing any ID. You could sign play party waivers with an “X.”
I had a very good experience in the Mentors Program. It enabled me to meet the most senior members of the Austin community right from the beginning of my BDSM life. By the following October, I at least knew quite a bit about what I didn’t know, but knew who could bring me further along the path.)
The Book Series
Because the worlds of BDSM and Master/slave are so different, we have created two new book series:
BDSM Mastery
This series of books is the world of sado-masochistic (SM) play and Dominant/submissive (D/s) relationships. There are two books available in this series: one on play, parties, and scene protocols and the other on D/s relationships.
In my world, D/s involves a dominant and a submissive, and the submissive retains some personal rights -- where and when to work, religion, contact with friends and biological family.
Master/slave Mastery
This series of books is about authority-transfer relationships. The only book now available is a rewrite and substantial expansion of my prior book titled: Master/slave Relationships: Handbook of theory and practice.
In my world, M/s is based on service and obedience and where the slave falls on the personality scale from dominant to submissive is secondary to the slave's quality of service and obedience. Here, the "s" can easily stand for "subordinate" rather than "submissive." As in, the Colonel is subordinate (but not submissive) to the General. In my world, the "s-type" in the M/s relationship is owned property.